A Stanford psychologist on the art of avoiding assholes, page 6
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 10:00 AM
Damn, stumbled onto Buzzfeed again. Where's my popcorn...... Oh here it is.
Hey OP. You know there is probably a bunch of posts online somewhere with the guys you've dated saying the same things about you. But more than likely they just said "Screw this, lifes too short. I'll be sure to learn from the experience and not date a woman like that again....time spent bitching online is wasting time I could be meeting people"
We're often very blind to our own short comings, especially when we're focused on pointing out those of other peoples.
Look at yourself long and hard in the mirror. Often those around us, friends or lovers are very much reflections of ourselves. If you always find yourself surrounded by arseholes..... weeeeeeell..... what does that say about you?
Might be time to find new types of people to hang around. Might be time to stop dating the same 'types'.
Most people, both men AND women I know, who feel as you do they always do the same thing every time, always date the same types, then cry about how they have no idea why it never works.
And it is always everyone else's fault....nope, people like you never did anything wrong. You're not a product of your own life choices and decisions.
Insanity is doing the same # over and over and expecting different results.
Partners come and go. But you know what stays the same in every relationship you have? What is the common factor of every relationship you've ever been in?
Maybe you should worry about yourself more, pick and correct your own faults. You cannot change others, but you can change yourself.
What I mean is take responsibility for yourself and stop passing the buck.
I've dated a few women that were arseholes. But I learned from the experiences. I made sure not to repeat them. I took responsibility for myself and my part in it. (Usually takes two to tango.) And I realise not all women are @#$% the same as not all men are.
Seriously. This is what ATS has become? Please bring back the Aliens, UFO's and weird #.
Save this # for facebook, buzzfeed and teh youtubes.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 03:21 PM
How the hell would OP even know who was male or female unless stated?
Seems like a weak research paper.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 07:20 PM
This thread is not typical of most women.
And then claim it is for a "research paper"
Either way, sad for normal women. I appologize men.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 09:29 PM
This thread is drawing in the male assholes which it's making it easy to pin real men from the pricks based on their ignorant replies
Glad read towards the end first to realize this is a paper of some kind. So the first point would be to address that issue. As a woman who has actually gone through abuse, this idea as a paper is disrespectful and lacking in understanding. Now there may be many reasons people endure abuse, but they would vary somewhat. For some its actually a sense of soul recognition and thanking Source for making that connection and after all the 'fun fur flying stuff that wounds the soul' you begin to realize this could have a soul rescue. The point is, there are connections between souls that also need to be respected.
Some people have been stuck for a while and need to be reconnected and brought out.
In any case these are complex issues and even the term karma, what does that mean to you? Understanding and knowledge tops karma and actually eliminates forgiveness.
Oddly enough, the part about giving up on men. Know many who have due to abuse and trauma. But some of it is of course their own participation and requires healing aspects of themselves. Most of the women I know who have harsh things to say, throw it all away when they feel an interest in someone and grow romantic again, because wounds are last for a time, they don't stick around forever. One is supposed to pick the pieces of themselves and figure out what is going on in their lives. And perhaps become less selfish about the whole concept of relationships. There are many people here who are quite amazing on the other side, who knows how long in the future. Just catch glimpses of people and the rough spots of them aren't who they will be or they are. So pulling back your power and shining a little light into a wounded soul and moving out of reach of being harmed by them but sending love to them with intention and meditation can begin to heal lives. Main point is its about rising above the personal, because in the end, it doesn't matter as much. Because healing self and striving to upgrade your consciousness here can bring many different paths.
As a paper this was disrespectful to the many women who endure real hardships with the loves of their lives.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 10:07 PM
I can offer some opinion!
I never realized this my entire life while others would use and violate me.
When someone attacks you in any way without provocation or justification it is them being more bad than you.
When I realized that I finally started enjoying life again because all the people wrecking my life are inferior
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 11:51 PM
"You have to learn to love yourself before you can truly love another"
I don't believe you, btw.
posted on Mar, 9 2018 @ 12:24 AM
This thread reminds me of what happened to the star Trek franchise, the threads here were mostly good like the original star Trek ,now some of these threads on Ats are like that spin off called deep space 9 which was like relationships in space, no action no storyline just boring relationships on a spacestation.
posted on Mar, 9 2018 @ 06:47 AM
Sorry to hear you have suffered some assholes !
sorry to hear you feel that you can never trust a man again , on that note I know its hard to regain the trust of anyone male or female , but I have to ask , do you trust your own father if he is present in your life ?
A Stanford psychologist on the art of avoiding assholes, page 6
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 10:00 AM
Damn, stumbled onto Buzzfeed again. Where's my popcorn...... Oh here it is.
Hey OP. You know there is probably a bunch of posts online somewhere with the guys you've dated saying the same things about you. But more than likely they just said "Screw this, lifes too short. I'll be sure to learn from the experience and not date a woman like that again....time spent bitching online is wasting time I could be meeting people"
We're often very blind to our own short comings, especially when we're focused on pointing out those of other peoples.
Look at yourself long and hard in the mirror. Often those around us, friends or lovers are very much reflections of ourselves. If you always find yourself surrounded by arseholes..... weeeeeeell..... what does that say about you?
Might be time to find new types of people to hang around. Might be time to stop dating the same 'types'.
Most people, both men AND women I know, who feel as you do they always do the same thing every time, always date the same types, then cry about how they have no idea why it never works.
And it is always everyone else's fault....nope, people like you never did anything wrong. You're not a product of your own life choices and decisions.
Insanity is doing the same # over and over and expecting different results.
Partners come and go. But you know what stays the same in every relationship you have? What is the common factor of every relationship you've ever been in?
Maybe you should worry about yourself more, pick and correct your own faults. You cannot change others, but you can change yourself.
What I mean is take responsibility for yourself and stop passing the buck.
I've dated a few women that were arseholes. But I learned from the experiences. I made sure not to repeat them. I took responsibility for myself and my part in it. (Usually takes two to tango.) And I realise not all women are @#$% the same as not all men are.
Seriously. This is what ATS has become? Please bring back the Aliens, UFO's and weird #.
Save this # for facebook, buzzfeed and teh youtubes.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 03:21 PM
How the hell would OP even know who was male or female unless stated?
Seems like a weak research paper.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 07:20 PM
This thread is not typical of most women.
And then claim it is for a "research paper"
Either way, sad for normal women. I appologize men.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 09:29 PM
This thread is drawing in the male assholes which it's making it easy to pin real men from the pricks based on their ignorant replies
Glad read towards the end first to realize this is a paper of some kind. So the first point would be to address that issue. As a woman who has actually gone through abuse, this idea as a paper is disrespectful and lacking in understanding. Now there may be many reasons people endure abuse, but they would vary somewha
t. For some its actually a sense of soul recognition and thanking Source for making that connection and after all the 'fun fur flying stuff that wounds the soul' you begin to realize this could have a soul rescue. The point is, there are connections between souls that also need to be respected.
Some people have been stuck for a while and need to be reconnected and brought out.
In any case these are complex issues and even the term karma, what does that mean to you? Understanding and knowledge tops karma and actually eliminates forgiveness.
Oddly enough, the part about giving up on men. Know many who have due to abuse and trauma. But some of it is of course their own participation and requires healing aspects of themselves. Most of the women I know who have harsh things to say, throw it all away when they feel an interest in someone and grow romantic again, because wounds are last for a time, they don't stick around forever. One is supposed to pick the pieces of themselves and figure out what is going on in their lives. And perhaps become less selfish about the whole concept of relationships. There are many people here who are quite amazing on the other side, who knows how long in the future. Just catch glimpses of people and the rough spots of them aren't who they will be or they are. So pulling back your power and shining a little light into a wounded soul and moving out of reach of being harmed by them but sending love to them with intention and meditation can begin to heal lives. Main point is its about rising above the personal, because in the end, it doesn't matter as much. Because healing self and striving to upgrade your consciousness here can bring many different paths.
As a paper this was disrespectful to the many women who endure real hardships with the loves of their lives.
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 10:07 PM
I can offer some opinion!
I never realized this my entire life while others would use and violate me.
When someone attacks you in any way without provocation or justification it is them being more bad than you.
When I realized that I finally started enjoying life again because all the people wrecking my life are inferior
posted on Mar, 8 2018 @ 11:51 PM
"You have to learn to love yourself before you can truly love another"
I don't believe you, btw.
posted on Mar, 9 2018 @ 12:24 AM
This thread reminds me of what happened to the star Trek franchise, the threads here were mostly good like the original star Trek ,now some of these threads on Ats are like that spin off called deep space 9 which was like relationships in space, no action no storyline just boring relationships on a spacestation.
posted on Mar, 9 2018 @ 06:47 AM
Sorry to hear you have suffered some assholes !
sorry to hear you feel that you can never trust a man again , on that note I know its hard to regain the trust of anyone male or female , but I have to ask , do you trust your own father if he is present in your life ?