Female Masturbation/Strong Orgasm

QuestionI'm 16 years old, and i am getting the feeling of wanting to have a very strong orgasm. I have tried using the shower head about 10 times and nothing happens, i have also tried to use the tap/faucet and still nothing happens. Also, to try to give myself a strong orgasm i have tried watching sex videos but still nothing happens .I have a boyfriend and well he really loves me, he keeps asking me to have sex with him, i want to ... the problem is my mum she is very protective over me, also his parents are protective over him, so we cant have sex any where. Also,, there is no way of me being able to buy to vibrator.
How can i have a really strong orgasm?
How can me and my boyfriend have sex without our parents finding out?

AnswerHi Sarah!
Do you feel better pleasure from rubbing your clit or from fingering yourself or penetration? Do you use any toys or anything like a hairbrush handle currently?
Good vibrator substitutes are often hairbrush handles, carrots, electric toothbrushes (for the vibration ;) and even cucumbers hehe. Try peeling a cucumber and warming it up in the microwave just for a few seconds.
As far as you and your bf, that's a tough one. Do you ever have time together alone?

Expertise

I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children

Experience

I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

OrganizationsChurch organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

PublicationsClass-specific college writing on Developmental and Sexual health

Education/CredentialsB.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.
Female Masturbation/Strong Orgasm

QuestionI'm 16 years old, and i am getting the feeling of wanting to have a very strong orgasm. I have tried using the shower head about 10 times and nothing happens, i have also tried to use the tap/faucet and still nothing happens. Also, to try to give myself a strong orgasm i have tried watching sex videos but still nothing happens .I have a boyfriend and well he really loves me, he keeps asking me to have sex with him, i want to ... the problem is my mum she is very protective over me, also his parents are protective over him, so we cant have sex any where. Also,, there is no way of me being able to buy to vibrator.
How can i have a really strong orgasm?
How can me and my boyfriend have sex without our parents finding out?

AnswerHi Sarah!
Do you feel better pleasure from rubbing your clit or from fingering yourself or penetration? Do you use any toys or anything like a hairbrush handle currently?
Good vibrator substitutes are often hairbrush handles, carrots, electric toothbrushes (for the vibration ;) and even cucumbers hehe. Try peeling a cuc
umber and warming it up in the microwave just for a few seconds.
As far as you and your bf, that's a tough one. Do you ever have time together alone?

Expertise

I will do my best to answer your questions about female masturbation, including what healthy masturbation is or how it can become unhealthy, when you should consider masturbating with others and when that may cross the line to sex, and how to handle masturbation in your family whether it's your parents, siblings or children

Experience

I am a Master's Student in Developmental Psychology and have focused most of my classes and research on healthy sexual development. I have helped younger siblings, friends, cousins and now my pre-teen daughter embrace masturbation and safe sexuality in a healthy and vibrant way.

OrganizationsChurch organizations, a counseling/soup kitchen volunteer organization and several teen puberty forums where I hope to offer advice

PublicationsClass-specific college writing on Developmental and Sexual health

Education/CredentialsB.A. in Psychology at an Indiana University. One year of Masters classes.