Adult Men and Abuse – Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)
3 thoughts on “Adult Men and Abuse”
January 13, 2020 at 6:57 pm	 Reply
This piece is very astute and hits the nail on the head. Especially, for me, this paragraph:
“Men, abused when a child or as an adult, often have problems with drinking or using drugs, have trouble with the law, have trouble working at or keeping their jobs, and many times end up divorced.”
All of the above! I spent 20 years after the abuse doing my best to never think of it again like it never happened, while at the same time not seeing the connection to failure after failure at any and everything I tried until I really hit bottom and started recovery. 25 more years of meetings and therapy before I started to believe I could be okay and I wasn’t somehow rotten at my core. The last few years have been about feeling gratitude for my healing and learning to tolerate all the good that has come from and with it. And this is far from a unique story.
January 14, 2020 at 6:40 am	 Reply
Thank you so much for sharing. I am so very sorry for the abuse you suffered and continue to suffer.
titanemma says:
January 15, 2020 at 2:49 am	 Reply
Clergy abuse of all adults no matter the age or gender is the silent plague in the church that I am willing to bet far surpasses in the number of those abused as children which is hideous. The abused child grows up to abuse or be abused or both. It’s time for this egregious abuse of power to end for all of humanity. I am doing my part. Meanwhile, I am grateful for twelve step rooms, too. It helps using coping skills to recovery from clergy abuse.
Adult Men and Abuse – Adults Sexually Abused by Priests (ASAP)
3 thoughts on “Adult Men and Abuse”
January 13, 2020 at 6:57 pm	 Reply
This piece is very astute and hits the nail on the head. Especially, for me, this paragraph:
“Men, abused when a child or as an adult, often have problems with drinking or using drugs, have trouble with the law, have trouble working at or keeping their jobs, and many times end up divorced.”
All of the above! I spent 20 years after the abuse doing my best to never think of it again like it never happened, while at the same time not seeing the connection to failure after failure at any and everything I tried until I really hit bottom and started recovery. 25 more years of meetings and therapy before I started to believe I could be okay and I wasn’t somehow rotten at my core
. The last few years have been about feeling gratitude for my healing and learning to tolerate all the good that has come from and with it. And this is far from a unique story.
January 14, 2020 at 6:40 am	 Reply
Thank you so much for sharing. I am so very sorry for the abuse you suffered and continue to suffer.
titanemma says:
January 15, 2020 at 2:49 am	 Reply
Clergy abuse of all adults no matter the age or gender is the silent plague in the church that I am willing to bet far surpasses in the number of those abused as children which is hideous. The abused child grows up to abuse or be abused or both. It’s time for this egregious abuse of power to end for all of humanity. I am doing my part. Meanwhile, I am grateful for twelve step rooms, too. It helps using coping skills to recovery from clergy abuse.