Doing Hard Time in Shaker Heights: Time in a Bottled Up
Bob SlattenApril 8, 2016 at 11:41 AMI KNOW exactly how you feel.I love Carlos to death, but if I have to spend every moment with him I'd go nuts ... or commit murder.ReplyDeleteRepliesBob SlattenApril 8, 2016 at 11:41 AMI just realized I said I love Carlos to death and then mentioned murdering him.I need help.DeleteReplycarlnepaApril 8, 2016 at 1:26 PMI think you're normal. It's time for a walk or a bike ride or a trip to Barnes and Nobel's or TJ Maxx or to your work area; the garage, the basement, the attic etc. to work on a project that interests you. It works for me. ReplyDeleteilduceApril 8, 2016 at 3:04 PMYou're kinder than I am. When I lived with my ex and he called me at home as I was enjoying being faraway from him, by myself, my typical answer was to scream "Why are you bothering me?!?!" into the phone.ReplyDeletecarlnepaApril 8, 2016 at 3:08 PMIf it can't be avoided, then we snuggle up on the couch together and watch this week's Lost in Space. ReplyDeleteanne marie in phillyApril 8, 2016 at 6:03 PMI am an extrovert and I enjoy time away from spouse. it frees the mind and soul. he feels the same way.ReplyDeleteJulie MerrillApril 8, 2016 at 6:46 PMNever beat yourself up for who you are, Sugar. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable - even preferring - to being on your own. Think of it this way - if you don't get your alone time you cannot give your very best to the ones you do want to spend time with. Struggled with this for years...finally cut myself some slack.ReplyDeleteDuPreeApril 9, 2016 at 9:10 AMI totally get this. I work from home and I have my routines that calm and center me. Sometimes, too much unexpected 'in your face time' from the person I love most in the world without appropriate time to adjust makes me want to run and hide.ReplyDeletelwApril 11, 2016 at 11:04 AMMy husband and I are also introverts, like most engineers. At home, we are together sometimes and sometimes both in the house doing different things on different floors. We respect and salute each other's need for solitude, but are available when the other needs company.At work, we have extroverted managers doing counterproductive things like holding long meetings and making more than one of us share an office or a cubicle; this is a guaranteed way of ensuring poorer quality work than would be had if each of us had an office with a door that closed. But the managers try to optimize based on what would work for them and no amount of telling them different or showing them studies changes anything.So, I understand your pain. ReplyDeleteAdd commentLoad more...
Doing Hard Time in Shaker Heights: Time in a Bottled Up
Bob SlattenApril 8, 2016 at 11:41 AMI KNOW exactly how you feel.I love Carlos to death, but if I have to spend every moment with him I'd go nuts ... or commit murder.ReplyDeleteRepliesBob SlattenApril 8, 2016 at 11:41 AMI just realized I said I love Carlos to death and then mentioned murdering him.I need help.DeleteReplycarlnepaApril 8, 2016 at 1:26 PMI think you're normal. It's time for a walk or a bike ride or a trip to Barnes and Nobel's or TJ Maxx or to your work area; the garage, the basement, the attic etc. to work on a project that interests you. It works for me. ReplyDeleteilduceApril 8, 2016 at 3:04 PMYou're kinder than I am. When I lived with my ex and he called me at home as I was enjoying being faraway from him, by myself, my typical answer was to scream "Why are you bothering me?!?!" into the phone.ReplyDeletecarlnepaApril 8, 2016 at 3:08 PMIf it can't be avoided, then we snuggle up on the couch together and watch this week's Lost in Space. ReplyDeleteanne marie in phillyApril 8, 2016 at 6:03 PMI am an extrovert and I enjoy time away from spouse. it frees the mind and soul. he feels the same way.ReplyDeleteJulie MerrillApril 8, 2016 at 6:46 PMNever beat yourself up for who you are, Sugar. There is nothing wrong with being comfortable 
- even preferring - to being on your own. Think of it this way - if you don't get your alone time you cannot give your very best to the ones you do want to spend time with. Struggled with this for years...finally cut myself some slack.ReplyDeleteDuPreeApril 9, 2016 at 9:10 AMI totally get this. I work from home and I have my routines that calm and center me. Sometimes, too much unexpected 'in your face time' from the person I love most in the world without appropriate time to adjust makes me want to run and hide.ReplyDeletelwApril 11, 2016 at 11:04 AMMy husband and I are also introverts, like most engineers. At home, we are together sometimes and sometimes both in the house doing different things on different floors. We respect and salute each other's need for solitude, but are available when the other needs company.At work, we have extroverted managers doing counterproductive things like holding long meetings and making more than one of us share an office or a cubicle; this is a guaranteed way of ensuring poorer quality work than would be had if each of us had an office with a door that closed. But the managers try to optimize based on what would work for them and no amount of telling them different or showing them studies changes anything.So, I understand your pain. ReplyDeleteAdd commentLoad more...